So often in our busy lives we underestimate the power of a caring touch, in a world of fake French air kisses and multiple hugs we dish out affection to acquaintances we have just met yet for those constant loved ones who stand by us every day it’s easy to take them for granted. Today I went for a massage and realized the power of a caring touch, somebody who I had never met was able to heal my pain and make me feel relaxed just through the power of touch. After the massage, I reflected that it had been weeks since I had just sat and touched my partner, not in a sensual way but spent the time to give a long hug rather than a quick kiss as I left each morning. Both working demanding jobs and with young kids, daily life consists of an admin list and a task of to do’s before falling almost instantly asleep, time to touch just hadn’t been a priority, never mind time to show deeper affection or holding hands or giving a massage.
Some time ago a friend shared with me the theory of ‘love languages’ and how each partner may have different ways of showing they care, it could be through gifts or acts of service but what my partner scored highly on was touch. Ironically I was more about acts of service-doing the dishes or fixing the long list of broken appliances was mine! I scored quite low on touch, just never feeling I needed it to know he cared. Yet with my young son I love it when he holds my hand or crawls over me or runs and gives me hugs-I crave his touch and I now realize my partner maybe craves mine. Skin is our biggest organ and when a baby is first born they suggest skin to skin contact as a way to bond, yet as we grow into adults we either forget this or connect it in a more sexual way.
Take a few minutes just to hold hands or sit side by side, if you are feeling generous even a massage, you may find that it can say more than words ever can and that simply connecting through the power of touch you connect on a deeper level than you thought possible.
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